thanks everyone. I cant say enough thank you's to you all. To all those lurking looking for answers. This is the place to be. lots of true caring people.
Update on my D14 asthma health scare. We did all the test possible. She is in perfect health. It may just be she needs to exercise a little more. she is 5-4" 115lbs, so not a weight issue. Cardio is needed I think. so I will go get an elliptical.
A few weeks ago, I let XW know that the school had concerns if D14 had asthma. After all the test it is a negative. I won't update her on this since she has yet to ask how she is doing.
D14 and I spent a good day together between test at the hospital. Waiting and chatting. People watching etc. In her comments I can tell she has a huge heart. Her reactions to seeing patients on oxygen due to lung problems I think scared her. She has many friends at school who are smoking and she really got scared for their future.
D16 is continuing her driving lessons. So proud of her. I made a short video of me coaching her. lots of fun.
not sure if I mentioned this here before. One of my employees at work who's brothers XW had a similar MLC like my XW. Tattoos, drugs, men , abandoning kids , rewriting history etc.. Well he received an apology letter from her. Full of regret .
not sure how his story ended. I believe he had moved on with his new girlfriend and was just helping his XW connect with the kids.
I think i am at that point. There's nothing i need or want from my XW but to be a mom to our kids. You never know. years to go still but I will help her.
hugs to you all for listening
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
