Not too bad, considering you are dealing with a 12 yr old boy being inappropriate.....and his mother, who is inappropriate!
It's very tough to not to let emotions come into play when trying to parent together, when she's angry and you are stressed. Has she always said such things about her child, or is that the way she talks since BD? Have you considered suggesting that you would be glad to deal with these young male issues with S12, if it will relieve her of the stress? IDK that it would work any better, and she might just blame you for anything S12 doesn't do correctly. However, she'll more than likely be angry, anyway, b/c that's part of her WW mindset. Just a thought.
While things are bad around home, I want to encourage you to watch yourself when you have the urge to "explain" things to her (especially when it has to do with her) and when you know she's already stewing about something. This sounds a bit contrary to all the books written on the importance of clear communication between spouses. However, with a WW, you will be met will a bad attitude and can be shifted into a higher intensity that gets into R talk real fast. A lot of H's have a tendency to try and over explain things, especially when they are use to having a mean W who will give him the devil.
Learn to give yourself pep talks into the mirror, before facing your weakest part of the day/night, and especially whenever she wants to talk about a matter. You can do this!
What is your source of energy and inspiration? Music, long walks, motivational tapes, etc? Not only do you need to guard your physical health, but your emotional/mental/spiritual health, as well.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
