Feyth - These are just scare tactics meant to frighten you into giving him what he wants. And he knows the triggers.
Each time he tries this method, just remember divorce is a breach of contract. There are laws in place for breaches of contract. He is not above the law and you deserve fairness. (This is probably why he is trying to circumvent the legal system as much as possible.)
That said, I think it's important in these moments for us to slow down and try to process what we are feeling and why. My h has also tried scare tactics on me. As we all work on creating a stronger version of ourselves, these are the sorts of things we have to conquer. Look at your past dynamic, examine why you are feeling what you feel and course correct. One thing I have learned is to strengthen my boundaries. It really is true: we teach people how we are to be treated. Can people go around trying to scare us into doing things?!?!
Remember, there are laws in place for breach of contract and you deserve representation.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
