"Also can anyone comment on my fear or insecurity.... I now have a fear that my W does not love me.... I never worried about it before..... now I wonder... is she doing this now because I am easy and safe .... did the Other guy not really want her as much as she needed.... why did she have an A with a guy that is below her in my opinion, not educated, poor and no manners..... oh and missing a couple of teeth..... "
What you and she are going through are perfectly normal. Her tears could very well be for the breakup of her relationship with the other person. There's usually a mourning period that the WAS goes through when they end an A. That's why I was concerned when you described your W as just reading books, etc. None of them will prepare you for the impact of what had happened.
You might think we're a broken record for suggesting it, but that's why getting a C is essential. You can even try C with MWD. And she needs to be the one to initiate it. That will be an indicator of how committed she is to the M.
Going through your wedding vows again, etc. may seem romantic and all, but it's just another band-aid. Look at Jon and Kate. They did the whole renew vows bit and divorced within a year.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
