Michlynn: I'm sitting here wondering how I could get your thoughts/philosophy into my W's head. First, I want to congratulate you on being motivated, and on finding your desire again. High FIVE! Second, I was thinking that the "vulnerable" thing may be what is going on with my W. She is fiercely independent and I think that sometimes she sees sex as letting me get TOO close to her, invading her private world. She's never been a very vocal lover, which is fine (but different than my past experiences), but maybe that's because she's afraid to "let go" with me. So now, she comes up with all these excuses, reasons, etc. to NOT ML with me, so she never has to feel vulnerable.
Just rambling...but very interested (as CeMar is), in finding out more details on your vulnerability ... how you dealt with it early in the R when we are all lusting after our partners; how you started feeling vulnerable with your H; what made you decide to change.
Hairdog, whose anti-depressants haven't kicked in this morning.
