Just Tired

[TiredTN]

I really don't want to be married to this person. We have kind of co-habitated for years with occasional benefits (and the benefits are not very good). She's not a good wife, she's very sporadic as a mom...but my kids (our kids)...like most kids...love their mom. I don't want her dragging my kids out of the country to see her parents without me. Not that I fear she would try to keep them over there, but she doesn't keep track of them too well in crowds and I just don't trust her to keep them safe.

I don't trust her financially. We've never had a rational financial conversation in our marriage. I don't trust her emotionally.

I do trust her not to have an affair. She's kind of a-sexual so I don't see her wanting to get boned by anybody...what she does for me is out of duty, not out of passion.

It just doesn't seem like a great way to spend my life, but how do I separate myself from her without messing up the kids and messing up both of our financial futures?