When it comes to divorce, but more importantly money, they will offer tidbits and hope that you'll take whatever they offer you. They do not care if what they are offering is fair or what the offer should be, i.e., 50/50 of the marital assets and whatever support that your area states that you are entitled to.
As for his threats....let him threaten all he wants. It's going to get ugly no matter what happens because he's not getting what he wants. Protect yourself financially and do not back down on what YOU are entitled to. Many of them do this because it's a bully tactic and they know us well enough that they think that if they wear us down enough we will give in. Don't do it.
Take control of your situation and advise your lawyer that whatever you and your lawyer agreed in the upon in the first place is the final offer and you will not entertain any more offers that are less than what you are entitled to. Do not discuss anything more w/your h and advise him to work thru his lawyer and yours the next time he says anything to you.
Yes, they can get ugly, but if you put your foot down and don't let them see you sweat, the better it will be for you. I know it's difficult and you feel stupid...but you weren't and aren't. You are a good person and do not allow this bully to tear you down. Stay strong!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
