Sad Dad needs help II

[Vapo]

Be kind to yourself. I t is not easy what you are going through. It takes time, and lots of it.

The basic rules are :

Do not do anything just to spite her.

Protect yourself and your D in all the ways possible (emotional, financial,...).

In other words, don't be a dick, but you come first for a change...

[Hopful]

Thank you for clarifying. That's what I'm trying to do but to the people that she's listening to and are hearing her side it sounds like I'm being a dick. Not that that matters. I don't want to hurt her but I do want to make sure what's left of my family is taken care of.

[MrBond]

Do you know how many 'buts' you have in that last post?

[Hopful]

2

[Vapo]

It was a rhetorical question.

[MoveFrwd]

Thank you for clarifying. That's what I'm trying to do but to the people that she's listening to and are hearing her side it sounds like I'm being a dick. Not that that matters. I don't want to hurt her but I do want to make sure what's left of my family is taken care of.

The stuff before the 'but' doesnt count.

[Hopful]

You know, that put everything in perspective. Thank you.

[MrBond]

Not sure if you were trying to be humorous or not, but your effort to flip from despair to humor usually shows insecurity. Are there any activities you can do to increase your self-esteem?

[Hopful]

Yep. Insecure right now. Don't know how. not to be.

[MoveFrwd]

Do not do anything just to spite her.

to the people that she's listening to and are hearing her side it sounds like I'm being a dick.

So, you can determine if you are being a dick. You cant control how she responds or what she says to others. So are you being spiteful?

Protect yourself and your D in all the ways possible (emotional, financial,...).

I do want to make sure what's left of my family is taken care of.

Good. Thats what matters.

Just remember that that includes you.