Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

[Surfer]

ForGump makes a great point here. He might not fully express things the way you want him to. You need to prepare for that with you IC.

I re-read the infidelity chapter of DR last night this really resonates with what you are saying. It is also something I struggle with. Never any apology or explanation of what happened just all denied. I have seen the texts and tracked the meetings though.....anyway I digress. Try having a re-read.

The weight loss is stress and anxiety. You are going over and over things. The only way out of this is talking or writing your thoughts out. Your H might not be the best company for this at the moment. The other thing is getting really drunk, no only joking. Tried that, it never works. The other thing is exercise. I know you are super busy but as H is home could you get 20 mins a day? It will really help you - to sleep too.

I remember living separately together. It was at that stage where the spew was horrendous and relentless. You remember those days (I sense you days are slightly better than that now) anyway, every day I took that run. For weeks, months I don't know. It helped me burn off the cortisol. It helped me 'see' I was so, so messed up. Give something a try. Perhaps it you could set something up between Kids and H for their bonding time. It's not just you that needs to repair relationships they do too. It will give you a break.

Also, on the not sleeping thing. I totally get this. I ready something on line about boiled bananas. Or perhaps that just me I am bananas. I am going to try it as I am struggling and whilst the vino will get me to sleep the calories are a waste of time....

I'll let you know how I get on!

Take care Sara. Get as much rest as you can, have a long bath, go for a walk, run or even just walk with him and the kids and hold hands. It's tricky I know.

Surfer.