Brief honest history. Married 11 ago. Wife has always sought refuge in spare room at times even during our dating year. Caught wife in a EA in May after a week vacation in April with friends to help them move.
Thought it would be good for us. Became physical in September caught her and well things are stagnant I have applied many of sandis rules and a lot of NC even though we live in the same home. There are days that things are working and days they are not. I read and read some more. She tells me the EA/PA is over but I will not believe it until she shows me.
She says she is comfortable at the moment being alone and I give her her space. She will seek me out to say she has made lunch for me and will occasionally cook dinner for both of us. But I have been very cautious on all accounts. Not sure what my next steps are but I'm doing very well in not talking about our marriage or relationship. Just focusing on me and my time.
She will seek me out at times to say have a good day before work etc. She wanted a divorce a month ago but no papers have crossed my path. Yes I'm in limbo but can deal with the long haul. I believe the fog is slowly lifting. But not 100% there yet. I want to be more active here but I work a lot. And don't have much time to post like others. Thank you.
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