CaliGuy...so she started to reconcile the other relationships with family and friends that she had distanced herself from? How long did it take for that to happen? Just curious and how did you find out?
Here is where you get the fuzzy 2x4 and the not so good news. If you read up on all the homework, the MLC curriculum .... and then you really get into it and start some outside research and study ... for me I needed to do this to understand it, not that it helped I just had a need to really understand what on earth could have flipped the applecart like it did, anyways I digress .... if you learn anything about MLC its this ... it takes time, it will last as long as it does. Look at it as a ship going through an iceburg filled ocean, nothing you can to to rush it and it is possibly the ship will get stuck and frozen in time for periods, maybe forever ... no one really knows nor is it possible to put a time line on it for your specific situation.
With that disclaimer from what I have put together my MLCr started her journey 2011, with a few triggers that preceded that I do not think it really started till 2011, BD was not till 2013. So that's when she started cutting ties with me 2012-2013 .... and within the next 1-3 years started cutting them off with family/friends and to an extent our S. Over the past year or so she has been a better mother and gradually connecting with S and I have noticed some added contact with MIL/FIL and BIL, but I think she still has ties to the MLC friends and OM (But seems not as frequent) so there is more to her journey if she is to emerge out the other side.
