I have had basically a platonic marriage for over 10 years and it is still hell, but of a very unfulfilled sort. You know that you won't be touched, held, kissed, carressed, and God Forbid, ML to, except with GREAT reluctance. This is not a marriage but a business realtionship and I and others like me deserve to have our marriage vows honored by our spouses. They won't so why should we?
I often ache so much that I am in pain, I burn for affection, or even acknowledgement that I am a woman. He won't go to counseling, his hormonal levels are just fine, so it is psychological with him.
You lose yourself in the doubt, the anger, the unfulfilled life that you know is within you but can never come out. If you even make the mearest hint of intimacy, not includung sex, the wall gets higher and thicker.
No, do not ask for a platonic realtionship, it is hell..and I cannot do this any more, so we are getting a Divorce. He made the decision not to work on the marriage, I've tried for years, and nothing has worked. I deserve a man that love me like a woman and a wife, not as a roommate or a mother.
