HH, We have been married 21 years. We went through a period where everything was ok, I was busy with the dogs and my son, but still remember times where I literaly begged him to ML with me. I, too, have at times prayed for my libido to disappear. It doesn't seem so hard now that I really do not care if I ever ML with him or not, but want that with someone else. So sorry you have to go through all this too. I agree, its horrible to be the woman and be the HD spouse. I thought something was terribly wrong with me at first, but am so glad I found this website and the SSM book. I now know there are many more of us out there. Keep yer chin up.
