GAL is going well! I am a hunter, and got a once in a lifetime moose tag, so I have spent a TON of time in the mountains some alone, some with s13 and some with brother and friends. I am getting adjusted to living alone/co parenting and taking pride in keeping a clean house, clean laundary and keeping well groomed. I am working on keeping a good budget. In two weeks I am going to AZ for a long weekend and just chilling. I am making new friends, some female but treading lightly on that front as I know that it can just prolong the healing. But I have to tell you this guy feels he needs to get some! The devastation took a toll on my work, so I am really getting back into the swing and focusing on my career again. It is a big adjustment as I was able to work all the time when it was a two parent in the house system. I am working at taking the high road, not rolling in the mud with that women, she tries to bait me, I think she is just mad that she can no longer control me. NC is really helping with that, it also helps detach which I really feel like I am on the path of total detachment. There are days that I just give her way too much though and I am working at just putting it aside and dedicating just a minor amount of time to those thoughts. I like the high road, the view is much better up there! I am motivated to move on for sure. There are several dreams that I have had that being with her has held me back from doing. As soon as the D is final I can actually start planning to act on some of those dreams. I have always wanted a place to remodel or build, not sure which one I will start with but it is sure fun to dream. Whenever I start thinking I wish this never happened and wish my life was back to what it was a year ago I just remind myself that that life was a lie, she has left the marriage several times over the course of 10 years or more. I was just her ice cream in her cake and ice cream life. Well I have gotten my ba11s back and it feels wonderful! Thanks for the response and promoting these thoughts of 180 and GAL, which came naturally but does take some work.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
