New to the 180. Help?

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I have read divorce busting, that's how I found this online community. Being emotionally charged myself, I guess it's hard to find the happy medium.

I've read the detachment thread about a hundred times, wrote it down to commit it to memory and have read DB.

Like I said, I'm trying to find the happy medium and figure out with all of these rules, what does a conversation look like? I'm not supposed to offer up a bunch of information about myself, but I'm also not supposed to ask what he's been up to. I'm not supposed to answer my phone every time he calls because I'm not supposed to be too available. I'm supposed to end the conversation first, but appear happy and bubbly. No talks of the future and no talks about the relationship.

Since my husband and I are long distance, wth am I supposed to talk to jimabpjt and when? Since I read the book and the thread, I'm asking for your expertise for what's worked for you.

Like I said, I'm just confused as to what a conversation is supposed to be about.

He calls me every couple days and wants to have these long drawn out conversations about how he feels and why and how he's angry with his family for coming after him after this decision was made and how he doesn't want to move back. Obviously those aren't productive conversations.