Learning the Two Step:Quick, Quick, Slow, Slow

[melweb]

Thanks peace~~thats a good way to put it: "walking slowly with eyes open." I do believe we are in a better place than where we were (obviously) but Rome wasn't built in a day.

Sotto~~ I agree with your assessment that H is not doing whatever takes. Though honestly, it seems to come and go. He'll be very forthcoming with whereabouts, leaving phone unattended, talking about A (which we do not talk a lot about really), etc.

Then all of the sudden, I get the "you gotta get over it, melweb, move on!!" He'll get mad that I check his phone or get mad I bring up "her."

So why don't I ask for what I need? Well, I have. I have access to his Verizon acct, and his phone password, which I do check. That is how I found out about the phone call and the texts. But truthfully, I know these things will not prevent him from another affair and keeps me in discovery mode--though its important for me to verify for sure! And I've done enough reading on A's to know that he could very well just take it further underground :where there's a will, there's a way!

Having said all that though, honestly Sotto, I don't know what I need. I wish I knew. Wait.. yes, I do: I need for the A to not have happened in the first place. But not my reality now, so in reality what do I need?? Think melweb, think!!


I will have to get back to you on that Sotto. Oh and thanks for heading me in BluWave's direction. I read some of her thread last night-- a lot of similarities, so I will go bend her ear.