New to the 180. Help?

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Also, at what point is a letter acceptable? Or is it ever? If the latter, what is the tone of the letter supposed to be? Tough love?

What kind of letter are you talking about? I would say no to most letters. I wrote my W an 18 page letter less than a month after she left me. About half the letter was good stuff and the other half was me pouring my heart out and kind of blaming her for a lot of the ills of hour marriage. I wrote stuff in the letter I would never dream off writing now because my head wasn't screwed no right then.

I don't think it made a difference to her one way or the other on how she felt about me. She has only briefly mentioned it once in the talks we've had since then.

A couple of months after she left me I wrote her an apology letter from the advice from my DB coach. That letter my W did notice and wrote me back (and called me about it) telling me how much it touched her.