So, as the pursuer, your version of "fighting for the M", is to run after her until you've just worn her out and she gives up?

Think of DBing as a new version of fighting for the M. It will teach you new ways.

I'm not sure what you mean by going against your core beliefs. Like what?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!