I am a very emotional man and this stems from losing my Mother at 19. I've never recovered from this and suspect this led to a massive fear of abandonment which then switched my role to one of a pursuer.
So is this something you are investigating in counseling?
Originally Posted By: RBG80
if I'm honest, I worry that leaving my W alone to deal with what ever she needs to deal with will end up in losing her completely - my instinct tells me to fight.
So do you think you can fix her?
Also, what do you mean by fight? The basic process for DB is to set goals and then only do actions that take you towards them. How is doing something that takes you away from your goals at all beneficial? By doing nothing, ARENT you "fighting"?