Hi Melweb, good to hear from you and I'm pleased to hear the A has ended and you and your H are still together. You may find BluWave's postings helpful in Newcomers as she and her H reconciled after he had an A, and she's generally insightful too...

For me, reading the above - there's little evidence of your H 'doing whatever it takes' to help you and your M heal from the A. You seem to be storing up some resentment, understandably - but neither of these things are good foundations for a strong and happy M going forwards, IMHO.

Can I ask why you don't ask for what you need from him?

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus