3 Months of misery

[Zues126]

Thanks for the update coffee. I hope to hear from you at least periodically for the next 24 months if not longer.

Forgiveness isn't easy. And it's easier to forgive once you're no longer in pain. While you're still hurting, the pain triggers anger towards the one that put you in that pain. Once the pain ends, it's pretty easy to let go of blame for pain you no longer feel.

So in my mind, the key to forgiveness is healing yourself so you are no longer in pain. And that comes from all of the DB principles such as GAL, detaching, etc.

I'm curious about a few things. Now that you've accepted, at least logically, that your marriage is over...what are you doing for YOU? Are there any 180s you're working on? What are your goals? Any GAL things you're doing? Truly wondering how you're doing for yourself separate from her.

There is no right answer or easy button, but if you use the loss to motivate you to rebuild it can help move on. I don't pretend it won't leave scars or that the loss can be swept away. But you can at least take pride in your response to the loss, and some comfort in knowing you did what you can. Some days that comfort means a lot.

Take care and keep us posted.