"I may try to talk about housework etc, but I have done before, and she has said you just have to get on with it that is life."

No it's not. When do you plan to get the DB book? You seem to be mixing up alot of concepts and that's what's getting you confused.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER