I'm reading the DR book. Good stuff but more questions!
As I think about my plan Im looking for advice on the GAL part:
My wife and I both work full time but she works an hour and a half away and we have 2 kids - one with special needs. Until I knew she was having an affair, I had no problem biting the bullet and getting home for bedtime etc. as the weeks progressed she's getting home later and later and more frequently late - obviously I now know WHY.
So, as I figure out how And when to confront my wife (and even after I confront her), how do I GAL if I'm Detached and letting her "do what she wants" which will result in her staying out whenever she wants however late she wants. Do I need to work with her and mandate I get 1-2 nights per week? Obviously she thinks I THINK she's just working late.
Also before I found out about the A, she literally said I need to get a life and get hobbies and friends and stop being emotionally caught up in her. I bring this up because I'm wondering if I need to skip the detachment and go right to the last resort techniques? I kind of feel detachment will play right into her fantasy of her not having to feel guilty while she runs around with the OM.
