I think you're doing okay. I am amazed at how hard you are working with 5 boys and working and and and...
I get it, truly I do. I think creating a healthy boundary of specific times when WW calls to talk to the boys is a good idea. This isn't control but rather a way to facilitate communication between her and her children. I think you validated well and came up with a solution based answer to a re-occurring problem.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3