Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

[PsySara]

Dory,
That's why I have chose to give him physical affection in spite of some folks saying I am making it to easy on him, the term cake eating has been used. If he were still in the affair then it would an absolute no, STDs and hard boundaries being necessary. This appears to be working to reminding him what he could lose.

Cherry,
With my WH I held back on physical affection when the A came to light. It took my almost a year to show him affection because his head was definitely out of the marriage and it would have resulted in driving him further away. But when the crack appeared in his resolve then I decided to take the leap.

ForGump,
I've actually argued that point in the past. He said if I had an Affair during that time it would have been justifiable. It's easy to say that when you're the one who has such poor boundaries and has to answer for your horrible actions. For now I am going to decide how and when to approach this wayward thinking, if he truly thinks my in(actions) led him to cheat then I can't feel safe with him.

Surfer,
Looking back I feel I could have been a better wife but I was by no means a bad wife. His problem is he has poor boundaries and has a smidgen of narcissistic personality, he feels entitled to do what feels good whether it's right or wrong. I think he is in serious need of IC but so far he is completely unwilling to go. At this point I wish we could at least have MC to indirectly get him IC.

So far we've had a few good days, last night he assembled a fire pit and DD5 and DS 3 roasted marshmallows for s'mores. I feel a little weird around him, like there is this wall between us. HE's polite and even kind but I feel...detached I guess. It's like when you lose a tooth and keep touching the hole with your tongue, continually feeling the emptiness where something once was. I am feeling very numb right now, I think because I am out of crises mode and wondering if we're piecing or...what?