I think that is a great pact with Altair and I wish you well with that. In my situation, it has really helped to bring new things and people into my life. They bring genuine pleasure and slowly the XH sized hole has become smaller - hopefully a mere pin prick at some point.
One thing I did for a while was - each month - tried a new GAL activity that could become a regular thing. For me, these included yoga, tai chi, dancing, singing, volunteering, book club, divorce group, social group. Not all of them stuck - but a number of them did, so that I do now have a life...so - maybe one new thing in November to get you started??
As for your H's stuff - I would say, do what works for you, and don't worry too much about impact as long as you are being reasonable with him. So, leave it in situ, move it into a single room, pack it up, send it on, ask him to collect it - whatever works best for you. And if you are not yet ready to decide - no problem. For me, I had a load of marital stuff that I wasn't ready to let go and didn't want to have on display either. For a good 18+ months it all went in a big case under the spare bed. After that time, I went through it and gave 95% to charity - I was ready...
Hope this helps anyway. And I look forward to seeing your focus firmly on you! Xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
