Quick run down of my sitch. H left up in May 2016 saying that he did not love me, didn't think he ever loved me, didn't think we had a had anything in common or anything to talk about anymore. He has rented a one bedroom flat for 12 months and had left quite a lot of his stuff behind.
I've gone dark for nearly six weeks and not a peep from H except to respond to a birthday text to him. I am now trying to take the next steps towards moving forward. I have made a sort of pact with Altair that in order to stop focusing on our H's we are just going to concentrate on ourselves. So far we are discussing getting Altair a pet that doesn't make any noise, is needy and loving and can fit in her purse. Oh and a pet she can have in an apartment that doesn't allow them!
At the end of my last thread (sorry I can't quote!) Blu said that I needed to let go and Job told me that I can move forward/let go and still have hope. This is what was confusing and worrying me. I do feel much stronger for going dark and my need to speak with H is getting less and less but I am also worried that as time goes on my feelings for him are starting to go too. Is this normal?
I also have trouble with knowing what to do with H's stuff and whether the process of getting him to pick up the rest of his stuff will help to let go. Again Job advised that I should leave it up to him if he wants to collect it and I'm glad about that because since leaving he has left all the decisions up to me and I'm fed up of it!
Andrew - you are right our sitch's and S's are very similar indeed! Are you up for joining me and Altair in just talking about stuff other than out S's?
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
