No I understand that she is the one doing the walking, but if I add fuel to the fire, would I be making it more difficult to possibly reconcile at a later date...should she come around?
There is a big difference between adding fuel to the fire and being a doormat. The LBS has to set boundaries with our teens (MLCrs) and hold to those without concern the MLCr is going to walk/run away. These are non-negotiable and simply just the way we will not tolerate being treated. Notice this is not how to control that other person, its not punitive, its simply a refusal to be disrespected on a basic human level and is paving the way to be respected regardless of the outcome.
As far as the "Morality Clause" I would be careful there. I am not sure what state you are in but that could be construed as implying she is having an A .... she may very well be and that could play into the D proceedings. On top of that it sounds controlling by you ..... some (mine) introduced OP to the kids early on ... in my case he was just a 'friend' and she had more to answer when asked 'friends shouldn't kiss like that' ..... not my circus/monkeys and out of my control there ... sure it stung badly but you really can do little if she has decided to bring OM along for the ride in her fantasy of life after D.
I get you are reeling but you really need to start applying the DB tools here, what have you been doing on your own, what goals have you set for yourself for the next 6 months?
