Eating Life with a Big Spoon

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2T - I chuckled over your h taking his toy (his car) and hiding it so no one else could play with it! Nice to hear from you.

Friday h did his PA ignore me routine. No surprises there.

As for the weekend, I was expecting more of the cold shoulder. There were a lot of surprises however. H started to eat my food again and grace us with his presence at dinner.

The weekend started off with him asking my advice on this home remedy I use for the kids. I found it interesting he would take my advice given the various paranoias he's displayed toward me.

He wants to dress the dog up for Halloween. He used to love this holiday and he had a lot of fun planning what he'll do for the dog. It was nice to hear him laughing. This is all a change from 2 years ago when he was so depressed he didn't even seem to know it was Halloween. (And last year he forgot what he had done the previous year [nothing] and had to ask us! He couldn't remember the holiday at all!!!)

On Saturday, he offered to do a,b, and c for me and he made a real show of it. I thanked him but kept waiting for him to drop some unwelcome news. Usually when he does something nice it's because he's about to do something he knows he ought not to do. It never came. He stayed home and in fact, asked us all to take the dog out with him. (Maybe he did the nice things because he had already done the thing he feels guilty for?!?)

Most noteworthy is that he did some parenting this weekend. The boys were squabbling and it was escalating. H left the dorm room and told me he'd take this one. (That's a first in a lonnng time.) Later in the day, kids started to bicker again and h came out and handled that one as well.

Last night he texted me asking about plans for Thanksgiving. We agreed on some plans.

Looks like he'll be doing some peeking out for the holidays. I have seen this pattern before. But, unlike in past years, this time I gave it all very little thought.