Coly23 - I think our spouses must be twins because it feels like we are both struggling with the same situations and questions.
I have no answers for you but you can at least see my mistakes as I'm a couple of months farther down the trail than you.
Sending you good thoughts.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells