Who are we kidding? Our spouses need to feel some serious pressure before they commit to change. My C even made this point to me today that I've been too "easy going"....hence my anger issues etc. Motivation doesn't happen magically. Why are *WE* taking the "hits" to the relationship. Why are *WE* so pathetic that we have to suck up to them and their approval, then hang on every single gesture that they make?

I think one of the most interesting things about us (ssm forum people) is that we are looking to improve the sex because we need the sex. So we avoid putting pressure on the spouse to "really" overhaul the relationship because of fear of no sex...OR they give us just enough to make us loose our motivation to address the really hard things that need to be fixed.


Sorry...I'm just ranting right now.

Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time -Steven Wright