Yep, actually reading those links are helpful. Unfortunately, a lot of newcomers pass them over.
Did you read that short version I posted on your last thread about detaching?
RBG, you must stop thinking and behaving like a victim. You are a man. Perhaps you lost part of your manliness in this enmeshed relationship at such a young age. Roles can change. Yours would need to start, first, by changing yourself. A woman is, usually, the natural responder to her H. However, if he becomes passive, codependent, controlling, or fails to lead........then his W loses respect for him and she moves into the traditional role of the H, while he takes on the traditional role of the W. Neither of them are at their best in reverse-role behaviors.
Stop fretting over your W, and find yourself as a man. Get healthy, physically and mentally. This M will turn around, or you will be much, much better in a new one. The cheapest thing you can get, is a new attitude. Ready to sign up for one? Then stick around.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
