Focus on Me and the Boys 9

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Did I do alright?

Great suggestions from GB.

How would you have reacted if you called to talk to kids and she didn't answer for 12 hours?

Probably would have felt the same as her, but adding sleep in there (which I fell asleep early also) and having 5 kids to take care of and get to school in the morning doesn't leave a whole lot of free time. Do I need to explain myself that I fell asleep early to xW?

I have been going non stop and had a lot to do. My intent was not to ignore or dismiss her text. Just did not get to it until then. (Based on the advice of the DB coach, as long as I am not doing it intentionally then that is OK whether she agrees or not).

I think validating how she feels when you were the one who didn't answer, is a little weird. Why didn't you just send her a text much earlier? Or let her know up front that you would be busy?

I answered via email to the text she sent me this morning as soon as I could.

She randomly calls when she feels it is appropriate for her. In the past I have been consistent and have always given her a heads up that I would like to speak with the boys at a certain time.

For me, she cannot just pop up when she feels like it just because she has free time in her schedule.

JK,

I would like to know what it is you are looking for here in this community.
From your earliest posts to this most recent one you ask for advice and then basically justify why what you do or think is right and why the advice you have been given is not.

Do you know the term "Askhole"?
If not look it up.
It is meant to be funny...but only because it is so true for many.

I really hope everything turns out well for your boys and I pray you are able to step back one day and look in the mirror and see things in a different light.
Much wisdom and encouragement here in this community and yes there are many opinions, but often when one looks outside themself and into the consistent patterns in advice and information, often there lies truth and sound principles...

Self awareness and sound principles are powerful things.

Good luck brother.
Your boys deserve nothing less than truth and sound principles in their lives. Be the one to provide that for them and you will find blessing beyond what could be imagined.