New LBH with WAW/Possibly WW, help Part 2

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Updates:
Everything had been going pretty well the last few days. Friday night, after putting S to bed, we watched some programs together, then went our separate ways before bed.

Saturday, I went to beerfest with friends, had a blast, came home, and chilled for a while. The W went out with some friends, including a mutual friend's W who is somewhat Wayward herself, and they got to talking, and it kind of seemed to empower both of them to push more towards D.

Sunday around 11:00am, I asked W to help me shop for some new clothes (I'm fashion blind, and I know W loves to shop). We had a good time, good interactions. I was sitting next to her, she said she had a massage Saturday, and I mentioned, if you ever want your neck, sholders, or boobs massaged, just let me know, she kind of smiled and said "stop" in a joking manner. I even got a big hug from her afterwards, and it felt really good.

Then comes the evening. W had been out with a friend, and she asks if I want to eat, I say yes, and we go to Chinese. However, I can tell she's in a bad mood (I think her period is about to start too). As we eat, she starts pressing me on moving towards D, getting my finances in order, her moving out, how uncomfortable it is living in the same house, she has anxiety from it, etc.

I try to deflect, but she keeps telling me to stop putting it off, I need to do this. It really wasn't good. I agreed to look into what to do about one of my 401K's (I can probably roll it into an IRA I have, which I had been thinking of doing anyway). She had said earlier she only has a list of lawyers, and, me being cautious, I said later, "Look, talk to your lawyer and see what they say about this." and she said, agitatiedly, "I don't have a lawyer, I'm trying to keep this amicable!"

Anyway, I took it all in stride, I didn't do any begging or pleading, but, during our convos, she says, "You're trying to keep me in the house in some kind of hope we're going to get back together; we're not, it's over." I understand this is normal, and I said, "you believe feelings can't change back, but they can, and it happens to people all the time." I'm a little worried that I'm showing her too much how I wants this M to succeed.

That's where I am. I really felt good after Sunday morning, but I wonder if, she might have started to have some feelings again, and quickly revolted against them. Plus, if it's PMS, that's going to add to it as she does get moody during that time period.

Oh, and j20a00g, you're right, I was trying to get this resolved ASAP, and I need to look more long term. Thank you for the reminder.