Have you done any reading on pursuit and distance?

Were you by any chance pursuing your wife at the time she was being heartless?

If someone you are not interested in persists in pursuing you, you tend to feel disgust, not pity.

I encourage you to finding one hing you can do this week that isn't the gym. Bonus points if it's something you've never done before.

Then, once you've found it, actually do it.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16