Cherry. He's gone, and divorce is looking

[Cherry]

Thanks guys, yeah I understand this is something that needs to be put across to him. I think my internal battle has gone from how he was the other weekend with the suicidal, I feel like I want to tread carefully that I don't want to slam the door shut. However, he does need to respect our privacy, I don't have a key to his place, I don't call into him and crash his space, so he can't come and go as he pleases here. I have some added security on my door so it can't be opened from the outside. I think I will have the conversation with him that he needs to contact us first.

Thanks surfer, I shall try to utelise the space as an opportunity to work upon me. You're right, for some reason I do shrug off people's compliments towards me, I need to realise I am doing a good job. There could be an alternative to dealing with this, like you say, flying off into a fight, or doing disappearing acts myself and taking comfort in one night stands. I should take pride that I'm facing this face on and working on me, without disrespecting myself and setting a poor example to my S