Are you seeing a counselor? Mine was great for helping me detach.

It really comes down to noticing when you are thinking about her, wondering about her, wanting her there to comfort you, and then deliberately choosing to think about something else.

And doing that over and over and over again.

GAL helps with this by giving you something else to focus on.

And yes, it's a 180 for you, so it will feel like going against instinct.

That's what you want.

Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16