Cherry. He's gone, and divorce is looking

[Sotto]

Yes, I agree with TO - he chose to leave and that house is no longer his home to come and go from IMHO. It's reasonable to ask him to arrange visits with you. I agree to be careful about the locks. Though you could take lesser steps (like putting the door chain on for instance) so that he has to knock. And if he queries, you can just say - oh the chain was on....now that I live on my own I use it more etc...)

But I would take steps to break the dynamic of 'I chose to move out, but I'll come and go as I please in my house'

Take care Cherry - you're doing really well xx