There is a passage in the book where a guy raises this very issue. He now realizes that his wife does not desire sex with him, and even if the frequency could be brought up to his level of liking, he openly wonders if this is enough, since he KNOWS he is not desired! I am like many HD males, I see desire and love as the SAME THING. Could I love a women and not desire her sexually, NO! I read all these books and they tell me that if I meet all her needs, then she will "Desire" me, but it does nto seem to work that way. TO be honest about it, I want a woman that acts like the HD women on these boards. But I see no hope for a ND woman EVER getting even remotely close to acting like that. If being sensual requires work, there is no way the ND spouse can keep it up.
