The Fight For Self III

[ForGump]

I had to think a lot about what forgiveness is. Looked up the definition in the dictionary, even. The dictionary definition has to do with anger, resentment, and a need for some type of repayment for the offense.

I don't think I feel any of those toward my W. Why. Not sure. Maybe because it seems inevitable to me -- it was not a completely free choice she made. She did it because of who she is, and she didn't make herself. I'm generally not an angry person, and when someone commits some offense, I tend to seek and see reasons. I don't tend to pin blame on a person.

I do like how it says forgiveness does not (re-)create a relationship. The old marriage is dead, and for a new one to exist, it requires two new people.