Wow guys. Thanks for the entertainment. Honestly, I appreciate ALL of you guys advice. Every situation is some different. The way we each act and respond is different even if the situation is the same. I think I'm actually getting to a somewhat better (healthier) place. But I have not and will not give up on my M. I'm setting and sticking with boundaries. But I still have hope. When I said until death do us part, I meant it. Bottom line for me, regardless of what the court may say, I'm still in a sovereign marriage. Maybe that's denial but it's my belief.
Tonight am celebrating my daughters 16 th birthday. She has a bunch of friends over. I made them a bonfire. Got a cake. They are having a good time. W shows up., 2 hrs after she told D she'd be here. Eats some food I bought for D and friends. Stays ab an hour and leaves. I was nice. She had to start talking a. The divorce. I didn't think this was the appropriate time so I answere her questions but again didn't offer anything new. Her lawyers have requested mediation. My lawyer thinks she wants maintenance. She's gonna crap when she sees I'm asking for child support. Our state is a no fault state EXCEPT in the case of maintenance, where infedility has occurred. Don't know if or how any of this will help me but my lawyer seems good and thinks I'll be ok.
Your D leaving is a trigger. There are a couple of more triggers you will find along your journey. A certain song, the holiday, anniversaries, birthdays (your, her, d's), certain special places...
It will get better, for now I recommend you avoid the triggers that you can avoid...
W just found out I'm asking for child support. She's been texting all morning ab how that's not right. She can't afford bills she has now. I know she needs to help support our D but in a way it's bothering me that it's going to hurt her.
