Still hanging on ... just

[Oluwa]

Thanks Altair.

Yes she is unhappy, and I think this is because we are so busy, both working full time and kids. Kids are S17, D14 and S12, so am in the midst of teenage years now. S17 has turned out good, he has matured alot and is more communicative again now at 17. My wife is starting to have a good relationship with him again now. It was tough for quite a few years. She always used to pick on him, this seems to have transferred to S12 now.

Honestly I do do alot of housework, kids and help. She is never left to do everything herself. So I don't think that it is my lack of help that is causing this. Yesterday when she wasnt well I told her to go to bed, but she didn't, even the kids sometimes say, mum you don't have to cook amazing meals everyday (which she does). She takes alot of pride in preparing food etc, but it is to the detrimant of her own health sometimes, i.e. she doesnt rest.

I may try to talk about housework etc, but I have done before, and she has said you just have to get on with it that is life.