I am planning to be in your area sometime over Christmas break, tho not sure of the details.
My guy has been so good for me in many ways...when we first started "holding hands" he would dismiss my concerns about my body (shaming about my weight which was a favorite taunt of the XH) by saying that my body is "luscious" and he was great about helping around the house and with meals with my yard.
As time went on tho, he fell into a pretty deep depression. He stopped being reliable about earning money. A good thing about him is that he isn't afraid to get help when he needs it. So about a year ago I told him my concerns and he immediately took some good steps to address his issues. However, he stopped getting the support he needs and fell back into depression. Long story short (you know me and 3 strikes) by summer time I could tell that things weren't getting better and I asked him to move out.
A big complicating factor is that we are in very different life stages. He has a young (grade school) daughter and a son in HS. His life is VERY busy with these kids and not so much time for me.
We are living separately now and see each other a few times a week. That seems to be a nice compromise and I am hoping to see him get regular professional treatment for his depression, and I told him so.
So...time will tell
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
