Both of us know there are problems in the marriage today. But her lack of desire goes way back to the first few years of marriage. You know, she pulled the old bait and switch. We had great sex for four years, then children come along and the libido went to nothing. The affection went the same way as the sex as well, so this is not just a sex problem, it is a sex AND affection problem, usually they go hand-in-hand. Right now I am still in the "Let's Build a Great Marriage phase". Sex is only a pices of this, but it is the piece that in the end will either make or break the "Great Marriage" for me.
