Instead of sticking to the matter at hand I talked about how my I have heart since she just disappeared on my birthday. How it hurts that I do not know where she is. How it hurts that she refuses to say "I love you." How it hurts that she keeps saying I will hurt her, even though I spent our entire marriage trying to shield her and putting up with her temper and sometimes (although very rare and old) physical outburst.
Her response was I don't trust you or feel safe around you.
What makes you think this is about YOU?
She is hurting and continuing to beg, plead, bargain, and have relationship talks is counter productive.
Read the homework and the DB/DR books. Then you will start to understand.
