Eating Life with a Big Spoon

[2Times2Many]

Hey HaWho. Just caught up with the past couple of weeks and all I can say is "wow." You are an amazing woman.

I echo your thoughts regarding the marriage vows. The words "for better or worse, in sickness and in health" have crossed my mind often. Thus far, I've stuck to my vows and that's been a great source of strength for me through all this. That I was a good person who kept her word.

I kind of agree with Job about the "punishing." My H is very good at that when he doesn't get his way. The funniest one ... when he started staying away for weeks and weeks at a time, I figured what the heck. His little sports car was just collecting dust and cobwebs in the garage so I started driving it ... daily! And I told him so and commented about how much fun it was to drive. Before he left on his next visit here, he took the car to his parents house and parked it in their garage so I couldn't drive it. How dare 2T drive his car. That must be stopped and she must be punished!

Anyway, he would do this "punishing" stuff, either through deeds or hurtful spew and I would let it get to me and upset me and I would react. I finally learned not to react and when he stopped getting a reaction to his drama (punishment), he stopped a lot of it. He still goes there from time to time, but I just go on about my merry way and ignore his antics.

I do find it interesting that your H likes to confront things through texts and email. Mine rarely does that, preferring a curt response along the lines of "we'll discuss it when I get back" if I bring up something. Guess he doesn't want anything "on the record."

Hope your weekend went well.

xoxoxo
2T