Feeling Lost 3

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I think if she is verbalizing she does not want a D--That is hopeful

Many of us get the exact opposite, and at Bomp drop our MLCer is pretty clear is OVER
and D is looming and thats my story

I think you are right

Give her space
No R talks
Dont ask her what she means instead
try to validate her
even if you dont understand it-talk to someone else like us or a counselor that is on board with these techniques
validation can be done by a nod, eye contact, a reply like -I hear what your saying
try not to advise her just listen
Listening means a lot to women
remember this takes a lot of time if its MLC-you can't force her through it
take care of you..find a hobby
learn an instrument, read, make model airplanes, go fishing
let her see you are taking care of you while balancing being there for her-
good luck