My wife only wants to correspond by email and only about business/financial matters.
I pulled all of my text and chat logs with my wife from the past two years read through them.
I realize my wife was the one who always said I love you, always emailed, called, or text, to check on me. And always reached out when she thought I was hurting and angry.
Most of my responses were about business, the home, our finances or physical acts (I cooked for you, I fixed your tire, I cleaned up, I sent you money, etc.) that I just done for her so she wouldn't worry about her safety or our finances.
I never really got into the "emotional stuff" during our almost ten year relationship, except only when it came to sex. And even then I felt uncomfortable and uneasy being emotional with my wife.
I noticed that about 4 months ago her random "I love you" text became less frequent. She would still send me things like quotes and poems but I noticed she started investing herself more emotionally in her work and social life. We still had a very strong sex life, despite this.
Since she left, she recently sent me message telling me how to we needed to split up bills and finances so she could find her own place.
Instead of sticking to the matter at hand I talked about how my I have heart since she just disappeared on my birthday. How it hurts that I do not know where she is. How it hurts that she refuses to say "I love you." How it hurts that she keeps saying I will hurt her, even though I spent our entire marriage trying to shield her and putting up with her temper and sometimes (although very rare and old) physical outburst.
Her response was I don't trust you or feel safe around you.
Although I was supposed to go dark, my feelings got the best of me and now I feel further lost down the hole.
