I think it's common for WAS's to want to do things amicably without L's involved. But a couple of suggestions XH made in the early stages were massively in his favour.

He was rather surprised when I had a L, but went out and got one himself. Actually, I found once he had a L, his suggestions became much more sensible.

Also, I don't think working with and through L's means adversarial. Our D was conducted with politeness and respect, including the L's...

Hopefully the day in your PJs has recharged you a little....sounds like some interesting reading anyway!

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus