I don't really post here often now but your last post speaks so much of the truth. The only person who is really going to love is us, and if we don't do it our WAS/WWS can't do it for us. They are so much in a second state, and searching for someone to love them/ make them feel better about themselves (I call it chasing a dream) that if they don't do the work that all of us here LBS are doing unfortunately I feel it would be difficult to reconcile.
